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Self-Love Club

To be sexy for you is fine.
To be sexy for me, divine. 

Sun, Mar 29, 2020 | Model info | Footnotes

Arehua and I took this photo months ago, and the idea was that we were going to redo them because the paint was dripping and the light was not ideal. And then she was out of town, and then I was out of town, and then coronavirus happened. I wonder when we will be able to remake them. I still want to someday, but looking back through this session, I really started to love this one, so i decided why wait? We’ll do another version of them someday, and in the meantime, I was feeling this micropoem today. We’re all spending a lot of time with ourselves lately, which could mean a lot of things. One thing I’ve noticed, many people, myself included, stay in house-clothes all day; we don’t really bother with our appearance much because we’re not going anywhere. Maybe that will start to weigh on us too if it hasn’t already, but it might not have to. There’s no reason you can’t do whatever it is you do to feel sexy for others simply for yourself.

So, think of this as a friendly reminder: feeling sexy for yourself is the most important person to feel sexy for. It doesn’t matter who else thinks you’re sexy. If you believe it yourself, the rest can’t touch you. That is not a secret, though it often feels like one, as we constantly seek external validation. Validate yourself from within. It’s ok to want to feel sexy to others. However, if you don’t feel sexy without others, you’re facing an uphill battle with yourself until you do. If you’re facing a lot of extra time and don’t know what to do with yourself, there’s always emotional and mental growth to be had. Self-esteem is such a beautiful thing. When we love ourselves, we’re able to give the best of ourselves to the world.

Stay safe out there lovelies, both in physical and mental health.

See Arehua's other episode here.