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Perception Leads To Myth

If I were a body of water
I’d be an ocean
distorted by my own 
mind
into a lake. 

Tue, May 14, 2019 | Model info | Footnotes

This is the second installment from my live physiopoetry Skin on Sundays show in Busan, South Korea on May 4, 2019. I wrote this poem for Tara after she told me about her perception of her body and the mental war she wages against society in order to try and accept herself, to realize that she is beautiful despite not being skinny, to allow herself the freedom to stand on a stage while a whole crowd is looking at her as I write on her skin.

It’s scary to get up on a stage and feel the energy of so many eyes gazing upon you. Even more so it might be scary when you’re a part of Skin on Sundays, where there is so much focus on the body for the sheer fact that it can be alarming/disarming to witness someone using the body as a canvas for words and poetry.

I am so ridiculously happy that Tara, the amazing and gorgeous woman who sits here in today’s episode, decided to participate. I know it was not an easy decision for her, but I also know that she realized that her courage to fight against society’s bullshit about how much people should weigh was—not only a personal triumph, but an act to inspire others who deal with self-body shaming just like her. There are so many of us out there who think our bodies are undeserving of being photographed, who feel ashamed to show our bodies in public. But every act of resistance, every time someone who isn’t as skinny as society tells us we should be/need to be/ within that awful “that skinny is the only way to be pretty” narrative, proudly sports their body in public, it pushes us forward little by little to realizing that pretty comes in all shapes, all sizes. It makes us all more comfortable in our own skin. Thank you Tara for wearing this elegant, form fitting white gown on stage, for projecting confidence and light from the depths of your soul as you stood on that stage and let me adorn you with words while so many stared directly at you. Thank you for sharing your beauty with the world. You do not have to be skinny to be beautiful. You are beautiful just as you are.

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