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The lemons of our longing
for strangeness 
instruct us how to live.

Mon, Aug 26, 2019 | Model info | Footnotes

Exploration of the world and self is not a phase we go through in our twenties. It just means different things at different times and different things for different people. Strangeness can be an excellent guidepost, a sign that pulls some of us in its direction so that we never stop learning, questioning, diving into new realms. When we go on the quest to “find ourselves,” I think it is often forgotten that it is a journey that lasts a lifetime. I find new versions of myself all the time, don’t you?

This is Elise, from Denmark. She was traveling around Mexico when I met her. She’s in her 30s. I met someone else in March (on the beaches of Oaxaca) who was in his 40s traveling around. One of my best friends has been nonstop traveling for the past few years. He’s almost 40. I am pointing this out not to say that traveling is the only way to explore life, because it definitely is not. However, it is important to recognize that exploring life is not one set path. For some people, it means having children and buying a house. This is the adventure that some people choose (it also happens to not be called an adventure, but what we are “supposed to do”). For others, their adventure is always moving and traveling (this is what we typically call “adventure”). But really, adventure just means going into uncharted territory, and strangeness is at the heart of adventure. Strangeness in whatever form it takes gives us the ability to find ourselves, all the versions of ourselves, continuously throughout life. The value of strangeness ranks high on my list for this reason. Cherish strangeness and the doors start unlocking themselves.